When the one you love and their family endure the ongoing challenges of quadriplegia, sometimes you wish someone could truly understand your corporate pain. In over three years since my sister’s accident, only a very few have including: very close family members, Elaine’s church family, Joni E. Tada, and ongoing faithful volunteer sitters.
Daily quadriplegia is not your usual malady. It is an ongoing battle waged for years. It is not remedied by a brief trip to a hospital or funeral home. It is a grueling life of suffering both for the disabled person and the family.
I have even found some ministers being unable to truly empathize with such suffering. I realize unless you have been there it may be hard to comprehend; but I challenge people to simply offer encouraging support to hurting people around you. My same challenge goes out to extended family members and acquaintances as well. Just try to put yourself in the place of the paralyzed one along with his/her family. In doing so, God may put a visit or a call to the afflicted upon your heart unless it has been hardened by unnecessary busyness.
I am so grateful for those who have responded to Elaine with the ministry of presence. The missed opportunities of some family and friends refusing to do the same have robbed her and them of promised blessings. How sad! Jesus commanded to help hurting people: “As you did it to one of the least of these My brethren, you did it to Me (Matthew 25:40). His commands to His children really are not burdensome.