In the midst of family crises, pain-filled events often erupt between relatives. Emotional heartaches are birthed through unkind words.
Recently, I confronted a family member about a hurtful, unjustified remark said about me behind my back. I had waited for months for that person to tell me of the concern. However, I sadly learned that the relative chose to tell others rather than address it personally with me.
Finally in a recent conversation with that relative, I could take it no more and exposed the relative’s unkind remark by confronting the issue one-on-one. Although not well received and the conversation strained, I experienced relief by exposing the secrecy.
Honesty, although painful, is the best policy. When one chooses to gossip to others rather than address the source, it severely impairs a relationship.
I think of what my frank grandmother used to say: “I have my faults but at least no one can call me a hypocrite.”
Dear Lord, help me to be like Grandma!