In the book of Job, his friends learn of Job’s multiple devastations. Initially they sit silently before him and grieve by his side. After they deem that the grieving has ended, each one has something to say. Unfortunately for Job and them, it would have been best for them to remain silent. Their advice conjured up criticisms of Job along with faulty reasons for his suffering.
One must choose friends carefully when embarking upon a dark night of the soul. Those with casual, unsolicited advice, beware. Unless one has experienced devastating life events and successfully survived them through Christ, one may have not won the right to offer any advice to other sufferers.
In suffering, you will quickly learn who your real friends and family are. You will recognize those sticking by you offering not their unsolicited counsel but their loving, personal support and prayers. So in undergoing severe trials, beware and choose your real friends very carefully!
In the end of the book of Job, this suffering servant had to forgive his friends; and they had to repent before restoration dawned. As we forgive and go forward with God, He will restore and help us despite the suffering hurts others have inflicted upon us. Praise God!